Monday, March 21, 2011
Tuesday, January 18, 2011
New York's No-Fault Divorce Law
Until recently, if you wanted to get a divorce in New York you had no choice but either to prove adultery, abandonment, or cruel and inhuman treatment by your spouse or to be legally separated from him or her for at least a year. Under New York’s no-fault divorce law, which went into effect in October 2010, you can now procure a divorce by stating, under oath, that the marital relationship has “broken down irretrievably for a period of at least six months.” This means that neither spouse is assigned the blame for causing the marriage to end.
In theory, this should make for smoother separations and less expensive divorces. There is, however, one catch: under the new law a court cannot grant a no-fault divorce until the economic issues of equitable distribution of marital property, the payment of spousal support, child support, counsel and experts’ fees and expenses, as well as the custody of and visitation with the children of the marriage have been finally resolved.
In the real world of divorce litigation, the grounds for divorce usually are not what couples end up fighting over. Most of the time, both parties want out of the marriage and they find a way to agree on the grounds. It is usually the economic and child-related issues that cause divorces to become contentious, lengthy, expensive and emotionally debilitating for the parties. Unfortunately, this will not change under the new law.
Saturday, April 25, 2009
Fault and Finances
Exhibit A is the recent decision of the First Department in Howard S. v. Lillian S., involving a wife who, after several years of marriage and two children, had an extramarital affair and became pregnant. The husband, who was unaware of the affair, had no reason to suspect that his youngest child was not, in fact, his. Later, when he became suspicious, he arranged for a DNA test that established he was not the father. He promptly filed for divorce and argued that, because his wife's conduct constituted “egregious fault” under New York’s Domestic Relations Law, it should be considered as a factor against her in determining equitable distribution.
The Appellate Division, however, disagreed. They concluded that, while the wife’s alleged misconduct cannot be condoned and clearly violates the marital relationship, it did not rise to the level of “egregious fault,” since she neither endangered the lives or physical well-being of family members, nor deliberately embarked on a course designed to inflict extreme emotional or physical abuse upon them. Twisting the knife, the Court also held that the husband was not entitled to recover the money that he had spent supporting the child because he could not establish that he would have immediately filed for divorce had he learned the truth earlier.
The lesson here is simple. Unless he or she has hired a hit man in a botched attempt to rub you out, it just doesn’t matter how bad or nasty or [fill in the blank] your spouse is when it comes to the question of who gets what. So, even though New York doesn’t have no-fault divorce, at least it has no-fault equitable distribution. You might call that progress.
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Thursday, September 18, 2008
What Not To Do In A Divorce
Sometimes, what you don't do in your divorce can be as important as, or even more important than, what you do. Here are some tips to make your divorce a little easier and to reduce the stress that is invariably part of this difficult process.
Don’t Get Caught Unprepared. If a divorce is on the horizon, you should make sure that you have copies of all of the important financial records from the marriage. These can include such things as bank and brokerage account statements, credit card bills, tax returns, and receipts. If you believe that your spouse may try to appropriate or dispose of assets such as the money in a joint bank account or the cash value of a life insurance policy, notify the holder in writing and, if necessary, get a restraining order from the court.
Don’t Try to Punish Your Spouse. Except in extremely egregious cases, divorce settlements are determined by equitable distribution laws. A court will not penalize your spouse financially or otherwise for being a nasty person. If you give you attorney orders to “go after” the other side, your legal fees will go through the roof. High divorce costs mean less money will be leftover for living. Treat divorce like the unwinding of a business arrangement. The best revenge is living well post-divorce.
Don’t Underestimate Your Budget. Invariably, clients underestimate or omit expenses when they produce their initial budget for temporary maintenance and later on find themselves unable to pay bills. Particularly, where children are involved, use a financial professional to help you produce an accurate and complete budget. The effects of inflation on the cost of a child's college education 15 years in the future or retirement 20 years hence, can be dramatic.
Don’t Ignore the Taxman. Work together with a financial planner or accountant to minimize the total taxes you and your ex will pay during separation and after divorce and share the money you save. The bottom line is you only get to share the marital assets left over after the taxman gets his cut.
Don’t Use Your Lawyer as a Therapist. One woman I spoke with ran up over $10,000 in legal fees in one month just in telephone calls complaining about her spouse. Attorneys are not cheap and billable hours pile up quickly. If you need emotional support, utilize qualified professionals and save big money in lawyer's fees.
Don’t Jump At A Settlement Offer That Looks Too Good. Both spouses and children must make compromises in their life styles after a divorce. One indisputable fact of divorce is that two households cost more to operate than one, but income is unchanged. A settlement that does not give one spouse enough money to live on is likely to go into default in the future. The result will be more litigation and legal fees. Where possible and appropriate, get payments up front even if you get less in total. Secure all payments with assets and insurance.
Don’t Forget to Update Estate Documents. After heavily contested divorces, many people forget to change the beneficiaries on their life insurance policies, IRA's and Will. The result is that their ex-spouse ends up inheriting their estate, which they really wanted to leave to their children, new partner or favorite charity.
Don’t Fail to Adequately Insure the Divorce Settlement. Premature death or disability of your ex-spouse can result in loss of maintenance, child support, college tuition or property settlement. Life and disability insurance can guarantee your payments and your family's security. Also, don't ignore the high cost of purchasing individual health insurance.
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